I haven't posted in a LONG time. Life has been busy, work has been busy, and I've been wrapped up with other "stuff". Until last Friday. And then it's like someone put the brakes on HARD and my head hit a virtual dashboard. And suddenly there was stuff I had to say.. but first I had to digest what had happened.
You know what bothered me first? The fact that they call this atrocity a "tragedy". For some reason, that was really getting under my skin. Hurricane Sandy was a tragedy. It was a disaster imposed on innocent people through no individual person's acts. What happened at Sandy Hook Elementary, however, was a massacre. And while the results are, indeed, tragic, they were due to the choice, actions, and evil demonstrated by a single sick individual.
I give tremendous credit to the news networks who chose to focus their reporting and attention on the victims instead of their killer. I do believe that making his name be the one on people's minds leads to his name being remembered, so let's not speak of him. I do pity his family and his parents because their name will always be tied to his. I don't know what caused this evil to erupt in him... but I'm not willing to take the easy way and blame his choices on whatever illness he suffered from... whether it was aspergers or autism or any other one of a host of mental illnesses that he had, they did not cause this to happen. He still stood there watching children dying around him. And he kept shooting.
Instead of getting on the gun debate bandwagon or the arming the teachers bandwagon, I for one would rather take a little time and focus on the bright lights that were so cruelly snuffed out. On the Teachers, Staff and Administrators who put the children's lives before their own. They are heroes. On the children whose lives were ended before they had even really begun. Their potential is lost to the world, and their families will be forever scarred. On the survivors who lost friends, colleagues, relatives, parents, and children. They will never get back what has been taken.
So what can we do? We're not there. We can't change what happened. But last night on Twitter, Ann Curry proposed we each take on 26 acts of love and kindness/mitzvahs to try to bring some light back into the world. And I'm in. Completely.Anyone who knows me knows that I am at my best when I have something I can DO to try to help.
My first act will be to create a paper chain of love. I remember when my kids were little (probably around the ages of the kids in Sandy Hook), one project the teachers gave was to make paper chains. You take a strip of paper, write something on it, link it to another, and close the circles. I intend to start mine tonight when the kids come home. I'd WELCOME any contributions... I guess my goal in making this is to create a link so that the folks in Newtown know they are loved across the nation. It's not that hard. Take a little cardstock and cut it into 2" strips. Find something to say that you wish you could tell people who are hurting even though it won't actually change things.
I believe that 26 lights were snuffed out in horrible violent ways last Friday. And that it falls to each of us to find a way to generate a little extra love and kindness. In at least 26 ways. That's how we can memorialize the lost. That's how we can make the world just a little bit better. That's how we can feel better ourselves. By holding hands and linking arms and standing strong. With love.
