Imagine if you will that the next time you have to get on a plane, in
addition to weighing your bags, that you had to put your emotional baggage on a
scale. Would you have to pay extra to bring that with you? Are you willing to
pay extra for that??? I know I'm not. It's not like I can wear it, lose weight
by eating it, or do anything useful with it.
I have never lost weight by complaining, whining, moaning, or in any way being negative. I have never made friends that way. I have never felt better or become a better person by holding on to negativity or anger. I have never made myself feel better by dumping on others or wishing life was different. I have never improved the quality or my life or my relationships with others by injecting them with anger or resentment. Have you?
I didn't think so.
But we all have feelings, we all have moments of self-doubt, sadness, frustration, and even anger. It's what we do with them that define us. If you allow those feelings to take over your heart and soul, and create a blanket of darkness and anger, that's all you'll ever see. If on the other hand, you keep your perspective and say "I'm not sure I meant to get where I am.... but this is where I am NOW... so what do I do to change it?"
If your solution is to fill your mouth with unhealthy food, or unkind words, or fill your brain with unhealthy thoughts, then you're not doing yourself any good.
You can't change the past. It's done. You can't wish it away or do it over. You can't erase it....
But you CAN move past it. You can start over. You can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and tell yourself "I can do better" and then you can do it. You can focus on the positive, embrace opportunities, make friends, and become the kind of person you want to be friends with. You can be a friend to you. YOU DESERVE IT! And others who also thrive on positivity will surround you. And then pretty soon whatever it was that put you in the hole of despair will be a painful memory but not part of your present.
I'm not negating the very real tragedies that happen, or the pain of loss. All I'm saying is that loss and sadness and anger and grief don't have to become our identity. We humans have the ability to heal ourselves. We can't replace what's gone, but we can persevere and struggle and make our way out of the blackness of despair. And if we can't get out ourselves, then we can take the step of asking for help if it's needed.
Good health isn't just about what we eat.... it's about loving ourselves enough to care for ourselves, mentally and physically. Being here is just the first step. Logging your food and getting exercise is the 2nd, losing physical weight is the 3rd..... but in my book, losing that emotional baggage is an essential element of the whole process. Maybe we need to focus on "Exorcising" our emotional demons in addition to exercising. Wish there was a place to log that one on here!
So, folks, it's boarding time. Either leave your emotional baggage and toxic relationships behind, or start coughing up the toll it will take to bring them with you.
There will be plenty of room on the plane if you need to bring yours along because all I have today is a carry-on full of sunshine. ;)
I have never lost weight by complaining, whining, moaning, or in any way being negative. I have never made friends that way. I have never felt better or become a better person by holding on to negativity or anger. I have never made myself feel better by dumping on others or wishing life was different. I have never improved the quality or my life or my relationships with others by injecting them with anger or resentment. Have you?
I didn't think so.
But we all have feelings, we all have moments of self-doubt, sadness, frustration, and even anger. It's what we do with them that define us. If you allow those feelings to take over your heart and soul, and create a blanket of darkness and anger, that's all you'll ever see. If on the other hand, you keep your perspective and say "I'm not sure I meant to get where I am.... but this is where I am NOW... so what do I do to change it?"
If your solution is to fill your mouth with unhealthy food, or unkind words, or fill your brain with unhealthy thoughts, then you're not doing yourself any good.
You can't change the past. It's done. You can't wish it away or do it over. You can't erase it....
But you CAN move past it. You can start over. You can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and tell yourself "I can do better" and then you can do it. You can focus on the positive, embrace opportunities, make friends, and become the kind of person you want to be friends with. You can be a friend to you. YOU DESERVE IT! And others who also thrive on positivity will surround you. And then pretty soon whatever it was that put you in the hole of despair will be a painful memory but not part of your present.
I'm not negating the very real tragedies that happen, or the pain of loss. All I'm saying is that loss and sadness and anger and grief don't have to become our identity. We humans have the ability to heal ourselves. We can't replace what's gone, but we can persevere and struggle and make our way out of the blackness of despair. And if we can't get out ourselves, then we can take the step of asking for help if it's needed.
Good health isn't just about what we eat.... it's about loving ourselves enough to care for ourselves, mentally and physically. Being here is just the first step. Logging your food and getting exercise is the 2nd, losing physical weight is the 3rd..... but in my book, losing that emotional baggage is an essential element of the whole process. Maybe we need to focus on "Exorcising" our emotional demons in addition to exercising. Wish there was a place to log that one on here!
So, folks, it's boarding time. Either leave your emotional baggage and toxic relationships behind, or start coughing up the toll it will take to bring them with you.
There will be plenty of room on the plane if you need to bring yours along because all I have today is a carry-on full of sunshine. ;)
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